how to address save the dates and wedding invitations

You’ve chosen the perfect stationery for your wedding, and it’s finally arrived! But after stuffing the envelopes, you sit down and realize you have no idea how to save the dates and wedding invitations. What’s a bride to do?

Fear not, my friend. I’ve got you covered today with a comprehensive rundown of nearly every name format, title, and living situation you can think of. Proper etiquette may be a little tedious, but I promise it doesn’t have to make your head spin.

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

Married with the same last name

Address these couples as “Mr. and Mrs.” and then spell out the husband’s name, all on one line.

Example:

Mr. and Mrs. Mickey Mouse
123 Disney Drive
Cartoonland, California 12345

 

Married with different last names

Spell out both names, including titles. Try to keep it on the same line if possible.

Example:

Mr. Prince Charming and Mrs. Snow White
456 Poison Apple Way
Storybook, Missouri 12345

 

Married with a hyphenated last name

Address as if they have different last names.

Example:

Mr. Prince Charming and Mrs. Snow White-Charming
456 Poison Apple Way
Storybook, Missouri 12345

 

Same Sex Couples

Both names should be on the same line if the couple is married. If not, place the second name on a separate line. The general rule of thumb is to start with the person you know best, or defer to alphabetical order if you’re equally acquainted with both.

Example:

Mrs. Olive Green and Mrs. Scarlet Red
789 Color Avenue
Artsy, Alabama 12345

 

Unmarried Couples

If a couple is unmarried but living together, or if you are including a significant other on one invitation rather than sending them separately, the names should be on separate lines.

Example:

Mr. Sammy Salmon
Ms. Mackenzie Mackerel
123 Fisher Place
Riverside, Alaska 12345

 

Entire Family Unit

Everyone in the family should be listed by name if they are invited. Children under 18 should be listed in order from oldest to youngest beneath their parents’ names. Etiquette states that children over 18 who still live at home should receive their own save the date and invitation, but we’ll leave that to your discretion. Also, unmarried girls are referred to as “Miss.”

Example:

Mr. and Mrs. William Flowers
Will, Miss Rose, Miss Daisy, and Miss Violet
456 Garden Circle
Greenville, Indiana 12345

 

Addressing a Doctor

If you are inviting a medical doctor, be sure to use that title. In a couple, the person with the title comes first, with full first and last names included. Don’t abbreviate titles unless you have space constraints.

Example:

Doctor Sylvia Pepper and Mr. Jonathan Pepper
789 Beverage Boulevard
Thirsty, South Carolina 12345

 

Married Couple of Doctors

If you are inviting a married couple who are both medical doctors, you can refer to them by their first names or as “The Doctors” plus their last name.

Example:

Doctors Jonathan and Sylvia Pepper (OR “The Doctors Pepper”)
789 Beverage Boulevard
Thirsty, South Carolina 12345

 

Addressing a Judge/Clergy/Military Officer/Government Official/Etc.

These sorts of distinguished titles can and should be used. In a couple, the person with the title comes first, with full first and last name used. Their spouse should be referred to by surname only. Don’t abbreviate titles unless you have space constraints.

Example:

The Honorable John Johnson and Mrs. Johnson
123 Alliteration Avenue
Repetition, Rhode Island 12345

 

Single Female

A single female is referred to as “Ms.” when they’re 18 or older, and “Miss” if they are younger. If they are a divorcee, stick with “Ms.” or “Mrs.”

Example:

Ms. Allison Wonderland (OR Miss Allison Wonderland)
456 Rabbit Hole Road
Nonsense, Nevada 12345

Note: When addressing save the dates and invitations to international guests, be sure to closely adhere to the USPS guidelines found here!

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